Preparation

While locating and purchasing the ring was a big and important part of preparation for the wedding, it isn't the only thing that needs to get done for this event. However, thankfully, Sarah has all the projects and the timeline for meetings and whatnot all figured out and written out. All I havta do is just make sure I help as much as possible and be there to listen to her frustrations, stories, and planning.

One of the first fun things we did was to find our Officiant. Our wedding photographer, Heidi, highly recommended Lois Huncovsky. We met with her and she was most defiantly the coolest person in the world to be the one who performs the ceremony. Sarah and I each had disappointing conversations with the pastors of each of our previous churches regarding how we each of different religions had to figure out which religion we'd bring our future spouse over to. Really uncool, and I was really angry and frustrated at my old church family for basically leaving me out to dry.

Lois embodied what Sarah and I had agreed upon over many long nights of discussions: one doesn't *require* the church to be with Christ, and even though we've had different religious backgrounds, its what we together believe in that makes our relationship with the Lord and his Son special. Oh, and as a matter of record, I still want to take Lois out to dinner soon.

In September we got a call from Heidi, our photographer, letting us know how wonderful the sunsets are down at the beach. Being the bums we are, we immediately trotted down to Carlsbad beach with Heidi and snapped a few pictures of us sitting uncomfortably on the rocks and getting our ankles soaked in the waves. Heidi's got an incredible sense of timing and alot of creativity. She slung her camera equipment around as if they weren't even there and the pictures she took were clear and sharp. REALLY cool. If you want a copy of one of the photos, let us know and we'll work something out. The pictures on the web page really don't do the real images justice.

Sarah likes jumping through hoops and over hurdles. For instance, as reception favors she's working on a project where she's making candles out of little planters pots. I mean, sure, I guess favors are A Good Thing but Sarah's really going off on them. She collected 70 of the terracotta pots, her and her brother painted them green, and she's consulted with her co-workers on the correct amount and type of wax to use to fill the pots up with. Thankfully Oin has been around to help her out. I most definitely don't how to help, and she's got some vendetta against those poor pots to turn them into candles.

Invitations and alot of them. And she says that its tacky to allow the computer to print addresses onto the envelopes. As she sits across the room from the computer, I swear I can hear it laughing at her. She asked me to help her package the invitations up and stamp them while 'The Simpsons' were on and it was one of those episodes that I've only seen 3 times, so I hadn't completely memorized it yet. I managed to blaze through 2 invitations in that half hour. She was pretty annoyed, but, now I can say I have seen every 'Simpsons' episode at least 4 times. Isn't that good enough? <grin>

Oh, to break the timeline here, lemme tell you about this web site, since its part of the wedding preparation. First off, Sarah and I are totally Internet geeks. Since no one else picked the domain name 'paulandsarah.org' from the ether, we went ahead and registered it under our name. I run a small FreeBSD server for me and my family's web pages and email. The box is hosted at my work under my desk, and they either don't notice or don't mind that my little dorky box is sucking electricity and bandwidth. Sarah is getting better at the whole Unix thang, but she is far more talented in the design and content creation of the web site, so with Microsoft FrontPage and some time, she keeps this site updated with new pictures and stories.

When David got married, Kim and I drug him out to Friar Tux's to get him all dressed up nice. It was really fun forcing Dave to try on all the vests and jackets, and I think Kim got really into it. So when it was MY turn, I was willing to be good about the ordeal and go with whatever the salesperson would suggest and listen to Sarah's input. However, the first place we went to was 'Garys' in the mall. They didn't have anything for me to try on, and since tails are the traditional requirement, I *HAD* to try the coat on to see what a dork I'd look like. The store didn't have anything to try on which was totally lame. So Sarah and I trotted over to Friar Tux's and met Courtney. She simply rocks. Besides being pretty cute and having a great sense of style, I think she'd be a great date for Oin. Courtney and us talked for a couple of hours over the two visits so far, the other clerks there were very nice, and there were plenty of tux's to try on and books to look though. She hooked me up with a fine tux with coat-tails, and we'll throw everyone else into nice vests and normal tux jackets.

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